Description of Practice
Are you feeling stuck? Do you want to make change, but just don't know how? Change can be scary, especially if it involves facing parts of ourselves that we'd rather not acknowledge. Shame is a powerful thing, and it can paralyze us. Let me start by saying that there is nothing so shameful that we have to run away from it. We can bring it out into the open, with honesty, compassion, and – with any luck – a small dose of humor. The therapy room is a safe place where we confront the worst parts of ourselves, but we do so without judgment, without shaming. I pledge to you that I will be your partner on this journey. I will help you understand why you feel the things you feel, say the things you say, and do the things you do. This process may involve asking and answering hard questions, but it won't involve shame. My approach is primarily relational. I believe that – and there is evidence to this effect – the quality of the therapeutic relationship is the most important determinant of success in therapy. As for my orientation, I am largely psychodynamic, and I believe that unresolved grief is at the heart of most psychic pain. With this in mind, I will help you understand that your feelings and behaviors have causes and context, and are therefore understandable, so that you see yourself not as a misfit, but rather as someone responding naturally and as best able to challenging situations. In this vein, you will never have a stronger advocate. Together, we will look at your experiences not only with clear eyes, but also with compassion and -- sometimes -- a dose of humor. As you explore, feel, and express your truths in an environment of understanding and acceptance, you will begin to make the changes that will allow you to better weather the ups and downs of life and to feel more joy. I believe that there is good in all of us. I believe that it takes guts to come to therapy, to take an honest look at ourselves. I believe that we are all dealing with some form of grief over something we have lost or never had, and that we need to get in touch with that. I believe that we all get in our own way sometimes, and that we wish we knew why, so we can stop. I believe that being a New York Mets fan builds character (or, at minimum, I want to believe that). I believe that we each want to become our authentic self, a self that is naturally loving and kind, and that we all can change if -- when -- we overcome the belief that we can't.